Not All Divorces are Awful

You hear all the time about the awful details of divorces. Whether it’s friends gossiping together about the divorces of other friends or gossip magazines revealing (or making up) details about celebrity divorces, it definitely feels like the whole of society is dead certain divorce is absolutely awful all the time.

I want to push back on this, so with the permission of my lovely ex-wife, I’m going to share my story.

Sarah and I got divorced two years ago. We were married for six years. We’re still really good friends. We hang out. We meet up at parties and we chat. Sarah’s quite close to my fiance Clare, and I like her new boyfriend pretty well.

How did this happen?

Well, let me start at the beginning. Sarah and I got married right out of college. We dated from the middle of junior year all through senior year. We finished school at the same time, we both wanted the same sort of things (or so we thought), and it just seemed to make sense. I look back on it now through the lens of Clare, and I see that we were probably just comfortable and we wanted someone there as we looked to take on the big scary responsibilities in life.

We got married that autumn without a lot of wedding drama. We were moderately happy for a couple years, then not happy for a couple more, then miserable for the last two.

We ended up not wanting the same things in life. I decided I didn’t want to be a lawyer (which had always been part of our long-term plans). I got a great job near home (we live in Texas) in the natural gas field, and I loved it. Sarah decided she wanted to go back to school, and that eventually, she wanted to move out to the coast. Basically, I was ready to settle down and start thinking about a family, and Sarah wanted to start over.

When we decided to get divorced, it came as a relief to both of us. We often laugh about how neither of us can remember who brought the topic up. We just had an “oh yeah,” epiphany sort of moment. Once it was out there, it was really quick and painless. We had an uncontested divorce, which you can read about at this law site if you don’t know what it means. And then we weren’t married anymore. Aside from some early awkwardness, everything has been fine between us.

So, there you have it. Not every divorce is awful for either or both parties. It’s worked out well for Sarah and me. I bet a lot of people out there have similar stories.

By the way, Sarah’s starting school next year, and she’s moving to the coast. Good for her!


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A Biker Wants to Sue Me

I hate bicyclists. I’ve always hated them. And now, I have a huge extra big reason to feel that way because one just ran into my car, and the guy is threatening to sue.

Look, bikes are useless. After the age of maybe twelve, they should be retired. We should treat bikes like we treat Halloween, a real gas for kids but anyone over a certain age has no business getting involved.

That’s how it should be, and yet I see more and more of these people (adults, mind you), clogging up the city streets on their two wheels. They’re a menace. They slow down traffic. They take up the central part of the lane so no one can get past. They don’t pay attention. They often ignore traffic signs and just fly right through. They’re a danger to themselves and to others.

I can’t imagine how many accidents take place because cars have to stop suddenly when a guy on a bike decides he wants to stop at the hipster fancy mustache shop and so he makes a sudden left into traffic. I don’t know the number, but I’m going to assume it’s high.

So this guy hit me. I don’t know if he was going to do a mustache shop. He did have a mustache, though.

I’m getting ahead of myself here. Let me set the scene. I was driving home two nights ago. It was after dark because I got out of work late. We have a big project due soon, and I’m stressed and not sleeping well, but that’s neither here nor there.

I was driving home, and this guy who wasn’t wearing a helmet and was wearing dark clothes zoomed out in front of me. I slowed down appropriately, I sat behind him doing ten miles an hour in a 35, waiting for him to get over to the side or turn onto another street. I wasted several long minutes of my life indulging his exercise routine.

During those minutes, he went through at least two stop signs. He’d lightly touch his breaks, look both ways and fly through.

Well, at sign number three, he decided for some reason to stop completely, despite the fact there were no other cars coming. I wasn’t expecting this, so my bumper kissed his back tire.

He flew off his bike dramatically, and got up and started beating on my car. He said he’d sue and demanded my information, which I gave.

Now, I’m finding out he may actually have a case. Apparently, he’s not required to wear a helmet, and I’ll have to prove he wasn’t following all the rules of the road.

What an awful couple of days I’ve had, and it’s only going to get worse. I was contacted today by someone claiming to be this guy’s lawyer. Maybe it was a prank, I hope it was, but I somehow doubt it.


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Taking Legal Action Against Serious Injuries

Serious injury is not something to be taken lightly. Brain and spinal cord injuries are a dangerous game as they can result in permanent damage. The Mayo Clinic says that a “traumatic brain injury occurs, when an external mechanical forces causes brain dysfunction.” Traumatic brain injury, or TBI, typically is caused by a blow to the head or body, the penetration of foreign objects, like bullets, or the penetration of one’s own skull. There are different levels of severity when it comes to brain trauma. A loss of brain cells is at the lower end of the spectrum, and on the other end brain trauma can end up leading to paralysis and even death.

Sometimes, these injuries come about through no fault of your own. You can do nothing wrong in a given situation, and still walk out with a blunt force to your skull causing a traumatic brain injury that makes it difficult for you to return to work. Williams Kherkher categorizes brain and spinal cord injuries as “catastrophic accidents.” The reason for this terminology is the long-term, effects these injuries can cause.

Dealing with a traumatic brain injury is troublesome enough, without having to worry about compensation and legal terminology. After a serious injury, recovery is the most important thing. Not to mention the burden of returning work, caring for your family, and dealing with medical bills. If you want to file a lawsuit against the perpetrator of your serious injury, it can often be too much of a load to handle a lawsuit on top of your intense recovery. Whether you want compensation for medical bills, long-term disability from work, or you just want justice to be served there are lawyers ready to be on your side and help you fight.

By hiring a lawyer, you allow yourself to focus on your recovery, rather than the legal jargon. Serious injuries like traumatic brain injuries can be detrimental to your well-being if not treated correctly. Brain and spinal cord injuries have the power to cause paralysis, and other long-lasting to permanent damages and it is important to remember how fragile the nervous system is, and not to take the healing process lightly. It is also unfair to the injured party just to let these types of injuries slide by. When a serious injury takes place, it is unacceptable, and repercussions need to be taken into account.

The window for taking legal action is small, so make sure to act quickly and reach out to law firms for questions you have when determining the best lawyer to get. Frequently asked questions range from asking how much money you can get, how much time you have to act, and all the next steps in your course of action. Serious injuries are a serious matter, and taking legal action might just be your best move. Traumatic brain injuries can alter your life in truly large ways, so don’t let lack of compensation be one of those ways.


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A Magical Wedding on a Charter Yacht

What would be more enchanting and beautiful than having your wedding ceremony and reception aboard an elegant Chicago yacht charter on Lake Michigan with the Chicago Skyline as your backdrop?

You can choose to hold the ceremony dockside or on the water plus there is a complimentary bridal suite available for the bride to get ready before the wedding and, if some guests will not be able make it to the ceremony, then the yacht can go back to the dock to pick them up and then head back out to sea for the reception. Some yachts, by the way, are big and spacious enough to carry up to, or more than, 400 guests.

With regard to your other concerns, such as catering, entertainment, photography and videography, leave everything to your chartered yacht which has in its list the finest catering, entertainment, photography and videography vendors that are guaranteed to provide you with outstanding service to make your wedding a truly perfect event.

An evening wedding ceremony is made more special by a beautiful sunset, the gorgeous views of the city, and a spectacular fireworks display. According to the Anita Dee Yachts, most charter yachts are also equipped with a full-service galley, as well as a state of the art sound system, offering endless cuisine and entertainment possibilities.

Other than your actual wedding ceremony and wedding reception, you can also choose to charter a yacht for other events related to your wedding, such as bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and your post wedding brunch.

Before you charter a yacht for your magical wedding ceremony, however, it is important to make sure that the yacht you charter complies with the guidelines on boating safely set by the U.S. Coast Guard’s Boating Safety Division, just to make sure that you and all your guests really get to enjoy your celebration.


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Chapter 7 Bankruptcy: Pros and Cons

Declaring bankruptcy is inevitably a difficult choice to make. It means giving up your assets when you can no longer afford to continue making payments on your debts or when you are struggling to support yourself or your business. While this likely frustrating and upsetting, it can also be a saving grace, when you are struggling under significant debt. However, before declaring bankruptcy, you must understand the type of bankruptcy that is right for you and your situation. Each of the different forms of bankruptcy applies to different situations and different income levels. Chapter 7 bankruptcy is one of the most common forms of bankruptcy and it has a variety of requirements that you must follow to be eligible. Fortunately, the legal specialists at FindLaw have provided an overview of the pros and cons of choosing Chapter 7 bankruptcy.

Filing for Chapter 7 bankruptcy allows you to cancel any or all of the debts that you are facing. In order to do this, however, you may be forced to liquidate your property and assets in order to repay creditors. This is one of the quickest and simplest forms of bankruptcy available, which is why many people choose this route. In order to qualify for Chapter 7 bankruptcy, you must undergo a means test, which indicates the assets that you have available and if you are capable of repaying any amount of your debt. With the help of a Raleigh bankruptcy lawyer, many of the people who wish to file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy are capable of effectively doing so. Before you decide to move forward with Chapter 7 bankruptcy, however, it is important to understand the pros and cons of this plan of action. Some of the cons include:

  • The inclusion of bankruptcy on your credit report for up to 10 years

  • Loss of property and valuable possessions

  • Loss of all credit cards

  • Difficulty acquiring a mortgage

  • You cannot file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy more than once

Although these negative aspects of bankruptcy may turn many people away, there are also several positives, which can help you and your loved ones, such as:

  • You receive financial relief within 3-6 months of filing

  • Lenders cannot take any further collection action

  • Chapter 7 can relieve even extremely high amounts of debt

  • Many of the things you own are exempt from being sold during bankruptcy

  • Over time you may be able to obtain new lines of credit and rebuild your financial standing


This is only a brief overview of the different aspects to consider before filing for bankruptcy. Only an experienced lawyer can truly help you understand your rights and the best course of action to take. Filing for bankruptcy may hurt your pride and your credit, but in the long-term, it can be the right solution to find some relief from serious debt. Your life should not be filled with only financial struggles, and bankruptcy may be able to help.


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